"I never got to see Aurelia, so I don't even know what she looked like."
Questions about what she looked like and whether we got to meet her. Answers and telling him about the time we spent with her and our description of what she looked like.
"Even if she was dead, she's still my sister and I wish I'd gotten to see her."
Trajan doesn't actually know that I am pregnant yet. We haven't really discussed it with him and I think it will make sense to wait until we know genders just to make it an easier conversation. The above conversation arose from him discussing his desire for one more brother, PLUS another sister.
This was at dinner time and you can imagine my apprehension when he turned to me last night after we finished reading in bed and said, "let's talk about stuff."
What did he proceed to talk about?
"Like why we only have doughnuts on the weekend and only sometimes then?"
I love this kid's mind. The discussions with him that we have every day just make my world a better place. And you know what, bubba? I hope no more of your siblings die too (well, I'm an actuary so I know mortality will occur, but lets say none die prematurely).
And I've said it before, but I really think discussing Aurelia's life and death with Trajan has likely helped me more than anyone else. He's not plagued by taboos or trying to say the right thing, he's just trying to understand the world and so am I. I'm very lucky.
|Innocent and wise. Sleeps with a fish and prefers the floor.|