I've spent a fair bit of time in the last few weeks/months trying to think of what is the appropriate amount to think about/write about Aurelia. Too much and I worry that I'm harping and not moving on, too little and it's like I'm trying to make her never have existed. I've finally come to a big old revelation:
There is no right balance.
She is going to play into my thoughts. She is going to likely take more of a written presence because she does not exist as a concrete presence. Writing about her less will not mean that I'm wanting to just make Chiron into a singleton and be done with it. Writing about her more will not mean that I am not healthy or not present in my relationships with others. Accepting her and her death as a part of reality and dealing with it as it is is my best course of action.